Kosher Fitness
By Michael Ungar
It has been clearly shown that living a healthy lifestyle (eating properly, exercising and getting rest) can lower the odds of getting certain diseases. It can also contribute to greater brain health and longevity. These are all important data points, and they become all the more crucial as we grow older.
As we age, there are many changes to our bodies; we can notice transformations in our appearance (wrinkles and graying or disappearing hair). There are changes in our cardiovascular system, in the musculoskeletal structures, in digestion and in cognition. Every one of these area can be improved by engaging in regular physical activity, eating a balanced and healthy diet and getting enough sleep.
What most articles about the effects of aging leave out is a topic that is of interest to many seniors. How will getting older affect our sex lives?
Women experiences changes before, during and after the process of menopause. Hot flashes, hair loss, weight gain and mood changes may occur. Some women have a diminished sex drive. There can also be other changes that make the act of sexual intercourse more difficult and even painful.
Men may experience erectile dysfunction. They may also have problems related to an enlarged prostate or prostate cancer. Libido may decrease, as well.
These are natural occurences, but they can be exacerbated by other health issues, medications, excessive alcohol consumption and smoking.
The good news is that there are ways to maintain sexual health in our senior years. The National Council on Aging
(NCOA) published an article in late 2021 that outlines some of the ways that we can have better outcomes when it comes to matters of intimacy.
There are three main strategies when it comes to a better sex life:
1. Talk to your doctor. It may seem embarrassing, but s/he has probably heard it before; your doctor can help address whatever issues you are facing. Normalize talking with your health professional about everything that concerns you, including your sex life.
2. Talk with your partner. If you are in a long-term relationship with a spouse or partner, be open about the changes and what expectations are on both sides. Many older adults may find themselves in new relationships after being widowed or divorced. This will require open communication; do not make assumptions since everyone’s sexual history is unique.
3. Live healthy. Diet can help or hinder our sexual health. Those who exercise regularly may have greater stamina and fewer circulatory issues which can contribute to longer-lasting lovemaking, greater arousal and better orgasms.
Sex is one of the great gifts given to human beings. As we age, there does not necessarily need to be a lessening of intimacy between loving partners. NCOA has excellent resources as will most physicians. Here’s to love and joy in the golden years!
This lightly-edited blog with photo was originally published on kosher-fitness.com on 10/31/22 by Rabbi Ungar.
