By Judith Macek
Summer break is quickly approaching. If we are blessed to be around children this time of year, we know all too well that we run the risk of hearing statements of “I’m bored” or “There’s nothing to do.”
So, it begs the question, “Is it okay for kids to be bored?” The answer is ‘yes!’
Being bored typically means an environment or outside source is no longer stimulating. Too often, children are over-scheduled from the time they get out of bed until they return there at night.
Why Boredom Isn’t Bad
When caregivers feel compelled to fill every waking hour for children or grandchildren, we might as well tell them we don’t think they are capable of thinking of something to do on their own. We run the risk of cheating them of opportunities to use their imagination and to be creative. These are important aspects of healthy human development. Throw in the increased use of technology and the odds are stacked against them for autonomous creativity.
Scheduled activities and technology have their place in our lives, but it is equally important to allow for ample downtime, too. As with many areas of our lives, the key is to find the balance between the two.
Boredom grants children the opportunity to be alone with their thoughts and feelings, which create an environment for personal growth. This can help them learn about who they are and where their thoughts go without other influences. It also helps them to realize it’s okay to be alone sometimes and activities are a part of who they are, not the definition of who they are. Hopefully, experiences with boredom will help children realize they have the potential to be interesting without all the activities.
So, what to do when confronted with the situation? Do a check-in to see if you’ve given them enough quality time recently. Sometimes they need us but don’t know how to ask for our time.
Another answer is to assure the child that it’s okay to be bored and encourage them to use their imagination. If those suggestions don’t help, you can always offer them a list of chores. You’ll be amazed at how quickly their imagination begins to flourish and the creative juices begin to flow.
Judith Macek is a licensed professional clinical counselor in Portage County who works with all ages and diagnoses, specializing in anxiety, depression and grief counseling. To reach her, call 330-398-5000.
