From Cleveland Clinic
Many people look forward to celebrating the holidays with family and friends, but for some, those festivities can make them feel anxious.
Dawn Potter, PsyD, psychologist for Cleveland Clinic, explains that there are different reasons that somebody might feel anxious anticipating parties. One common cause could be social anxiety. These anxieties can be triggered if you’re going to a holiday party where you don’t know some of the people very well, or where you might be in some kind of hosting or performing role where you are making announcements, or handing out gifts.
Dr. Potter says someone who deals with perfectionism may become anxious if they want everything at their party to be just right. Or, a people-pleaser may be worried about two relatives getting along or a family member saying something inappropriate at dinner.
There are ways to cope in these situations. For starters, remind yourself that there is only so much in your control. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help if you are hosting. And if there is someone you’re not looking forward to seeing, you could limit your interactions with them or even leave the party early.
Dr. Potter also advises against drinking to calm your nerves. “It may make you feel better in the moment. However, when you are anxious, you are at a risk of drinking too much and then you may do things that you wouldn’t normally say or do because you’ll be disinhibited,” she says. “And then, you’ll have more things to fuel your anxiety.”
Dr. Potter says, if you opt not to attend an event, you don’t owe anyone a detailed explanation about why you’re not going. You can simply offer an apology and say you have to do what’s best for you.
