The call will come — whether you’re ready or not — that your precious grandchild will want to sleep over at your house.
Even for experienced parents, the mere thought of their child not sleeping in his own cozy bed causes anxiety. However, with the right preparation, everyone can be set up for success. Here are some personal and legal tips to make sure everyone is ready for sleepover success.
- MAKE SURE IT’S THE RIGHT DAY.
Well-rested children tend to be better guests and can handle the emotions of new situations. However, hunger or illness can turn a sleepover into a nightmare; better to postpone the visit to a more ideal time. - SET THE GROUND RULES.
Parents and grandparents may have different expectations about a grandchild’s behavior. Grandparents may feel it’s their job to spoil the grandkids. Parents may not like the little monster that comes home after a visit. Everyone needs to understand the care rules in advance and have a clear understanding of what is and is not acceptable behavior by both grandparents and grandchildren. - BE SURE THE CAREGIVERS HAVE LEGAL PAPERWORK FOR MEDICAL TREATMENT.
Nothing can ruin a wonderful evening like a medical emergency. If mom and dad can’t be reached, Grandma and Grandpa may have to make a trip to the ER with a grandchild. If there is no signed, witnessed and notarized Medical Power of Attorney allowing them to determine medical treatment, valuable time may be lost in treating an injury or illness. - IF THE CHILD IS AN INFANT OR TODDLER, BABYPROOF!
Just like your grandchild’s home has to be made ready when he begins to crawl and walk, so does your home. You need to have a baby monitor, doorknob and outlet covers, cabinet locks and baby gates. It’s hard to chase a toddler around the house, so avoid that ER visit with a little preparation. Don’t forget a high chair, car seat and stroller. - PACK A PIECE OF HOME.
Make sure your grandchild has her special blanket or lovey toy. A comfy pair of jammies, favorite books or snacks will also go a long way toward a comfortable stay. Plus, a safe, familiar place to sleep is essential. Sharing a bed or sleeping on the couch is not the safest option. A portable travel bed or cot that can be used both at home and at Grandma’s house might be just the ticket.
An overnight adventure at Grandma’s and Grandpa’s can be a wonderful learning, growing and bonding time for the grandkids. Or, it can be the stuff that bad dreams are made of. Take time to plan for the event. Having everyone look forward to a repeat stay is the goal. A little preparation can make that (good) dream come true.
Laurie G. Steiner is a member of the law firm of Solomon, Steiner & Peck, Ltd. She is a Certified Elder Law Attorney by the National Elder Law Foundation and the Ohio State Bar Association. She practices in the areas of Elder Law, Medicaid, VA and Disability Planning, and Estate and Trust Planning and Administration.
