HELPFUL TIPS WHEN INTERACTING WITH SOMEONE WITH AUTISM
Communication difficulties are common. They have difficulty reading social cues and body language. Be patient and understanding. Those on the spectrum tend to take things literally and often have trouble reading between the lines. Everything someone with autism does is a form of communication.
Don’t get offended. People with autism tend to be frank, honest and matter-of-fact. They don’t intend to offend you.
Don’t expect eye contact. Someone on the spectrum might be able to force eye contact, but it might not be comfortable for them.
Don’t touch someone with autism without warning and possibly permission, unless you know that this person is OK with touch. It can scare or upset some people on the spectrum.
Don’t assume that someone with autism lacks empathy or emotion. People with autism can be very loving and caring and sometimes are unable to show their emotions.
Some people with autism have echolalia. Echolalia is the repetition of phrases, words or parts of words.
People with autism can be very visual. Show them how to do something rather than simply telling them. Be prepared to repeat several times.
There is a good chance that you or someone close to you has a grandchild or loved one affected by autism.
Whether it’s a grandchild or someone else, with a few key tips you can successfully and lovingly interact with someone on the autism spectrum, no matter their age.
Every person living with autism is different. The term “spectrum” refers to the wide range of symptoms and severity. Some people are verbal and able to take care of daily living skills but have social challenges. Others might be nonverbal but very social.
Some with autism might exhibit repetitive behaviors, intense interests or “stimming.” For example, some individuals with autism might enjoy affectionate behavior while others shy away from it. Some might clear their throat repeatedly or make unexpected noises. Others might be focused on a certain subject or play with toys in a specific way.
Stimming refers to specific behaviors, such as flapping, rocking, spinning or repetition of words and phrases. This is a way in which autistic people calm and stimulate themselves, relieve anxiety and deal with other emotions.
SOCIAL CHALLENGES
If your grandchild has autism, it can be difficult for them to socialize with other kids. They might prefer to play by themselves or with you. A nonverbal child with autism might have a tough time relaying what they want or need. Watch for the ways they do communicate — with their body or hand signals — and speak to them as an equal. Often, they can understand what you are saying, but cannot communicate a response.
Some children might experience sensory processing overloads or “meltdowns.” This can happen when an individual is sensitive to light, sound, smell, taste and touch. If they’re in a public place for a long time and bombarded with too many of these elements, they might have a meltdown.
This can be very painful for the child and should not be confused for a tantrum. If possible, ask what triggers the meltdowns and make accommodations to avoid them.
IN CASE OF A MELTDOWN, HERE ARE A FEW THINGS TO TRY
• Act in a calm and reassuring manner.
• Offer a hug. A long and tight hug provides deep pressure, which can help calm the child and make them feel secure — but only if they want it.
• Redirect. Go outside, retreat to a familiar spot or take a break in another room.
Autism Speaks has created “A Grandparent’s Guide to Autism.” For more information on autism resources, visit autismspeaks.org or call Northeast Ohio Autism Speaks at 216-524-2842.
