Grief

There’s something so painfully strange about seeing someone’s things after they’re gone.  Really, it doesn’t matter what it is, like a jacket over a chair, a mug in the cabinet, a half-used bottle of shampoo, a drawer full of receipts, chargers, pens, and random little everyday objects that now feel impossible to touch. For a lot of people, they joke about how great it would be to inherit something from someone, be it money, a house, or belongings in general. 

But then, when it happens, when you’re grieving, it’s hard to describe how hard it is to manage, because you barely can. No one can manage, but you’re supposed to. You’re supposed to just accept that the world will keep turning, people will go about their business, and you’re supposed to do that too while at the same time grieving. 

So, when you get boxes of stuff- boxes upon boxes- are you supposed to deal with this when there’s just no bandwidth there for the time being?

Don’t Force Yourself to Make Every Decision Right Away

It can feel like everything needs an answer immediately. Keep it, donate it, sell it, give it to family, throw it away, sort it properly, be practical, be sentimental, be calm, be efficient. Like, okay, that’s a lot to ask from someone who’s barely managing the day.

Some belongings can wait. Unless there’s a deadline because of a lease, a house sale, legal paperwork, or another urgent situation, there’s no need to decide the emotional value of every single item right away. And you should also just keep in mind here that grief can make a regular sweater feel like a museum piece, and it can make a box of old kitchen tools feel weirdly impossible to handle. So, just giving it time doesn’t mean avoiding it forever; it just means not forcing clarity before it exists.

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Grief isn’t something you wish or plan for. And the loss of a loved one can upend your life in ways you don’t know existed. Its normal, and the emotion that comes with losing someone from your life can be immense.

Planning for a funeral and what happens next, however, can be just as hard as the loss; it might even feel worse because this is when it becomes final.

One of the best things you can do as soon as you’re strong enough is to find a way to honor the person you loved. To give you a place where you can find them, feel them, and have a special connection to who they are or a memory.

What this can be looks different for everyone, but the best way to honor a loved one is to create something that reminds you of them, is representative of who they were and how they lived their life.

This post is going to look at some ways you can create a longer-lasting memory of your loved ones to bring you comfort.

Choose A Meaningful Place to Scatter Ashes

Not everyone will want their ashes scattered, but for those who would like their final resting place to be out in the world, it’s all a lovely way to honor them and what they would have wanted.

You can choose an ashes scattering service that takes you out onto the water to scatter ashes at sea, or you can scatter them in a location they loved, so they all always remain in a past that made them happy to choose somewhere you can visit again and again, knowing they are there. If you’re planning on scattering ashes in a public place, always check you can legally do so these days, and the experience isn’t marred by problems.

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It’s never easy when a loved one passes away. Grief takes time, but you can carry on with normal life while still remembering your loved one and the times you spent together. Here are special ways to remember a loved one that might help you to find comfort. ...